I always claim I’m not a big fan of shopping and that your love for fashion has nothing to do with how much you spend in clothing, so I’ve got to come clean and publicly confess I just spent 191euros in tops and lingerie (which I desperately needed) these past few weeks. Part of me is super ashamed god knows why, cause it was MY money I spent, and the other part is super excited to have new stuff and finally being done with this awful style crisis that had been following me for a long time now. So that’s a relief!
That’s what helped me imagining my new style, in three words: Black, sleek lines, and minimal:
Also, I realized to be able to shop well you have to buy not only what suits you, but also what is relevant for the look you wanna go for. You have to prepare that before going shopping. This is extremely important especially during the sales where your mind can be easily distracted by low prices and the quantity of not organized items. I love spontaneity but unfortunately it didn’t help me finding my way out of my style crisis. Spontaneity might work for you and that’s wonderful! Personally, I always went shopping without thinking much about it and was often disappointed with my findings after a while. I tended to pick large stuff that were unflattering, and also I love prints but it gets old very quickly, and I rarely paid attention to the little tag inside, where you find the cleaning infos and so on, and now I buy only what is machine washable. I just can’t see the use of owning a beautiful item and being unable to wash it easily.
Good Shopping is the last step of a process of reflection:
1-Open your closet: organize the stuff you like and wear, give away what you don’t wear anymore but is still in good shape, throw away the rest. If this part is hard for you, as in How I Met Your Mother, apply the 1year rule: if you don’t know if you should let go of an item ask yourself the question: did you wear it at least once during last year? If yes, you can keep it. If not, NEXT!
This is not only good to know exactly what you have, and therefore what you need, but also to empty your mind as well as the material stuff that takes all the space you need to be more available to the present to come (vs. the past you stored that prevent you to step forward). Cause yes, there is definitely a connection between the material world and the spirit world and if you try it for yourself you’ll soon realize you can’t go forth in your mind with useless bargain slowing you down in real life. Start fresh! You’ll feel so much better.
2-Identify your mistakes by analyzing what you just gave away. What is the pattern you can identify? What do you keep on buying and almost never end up wearing? Is it a wrong size? A wrong colour? A wrong shape or material? Write everything down on a sheet of paper in order not to forget next time and be able to chose more wisely. Above all, don’t feel bad about yourself, yes you made mistakes, but as in life in general, mistakes are supposed to make you improve yourself, everyone makes mistakes. The difference lies in what you are gonna do about it, be depressed and feel like a moron, or learn and try again? It’s up to you.
3-Be conscious of what your style is, and/or what you would like it to be (look at blogs and magazines for inspiration) It can take a few time, so don’t rush anything. Unless your style needs a complete reshape, what you lack of is probably one or two items, if you can’t afford more, think of accessories, they are the fastest way to give new colours to your style. If you really have trouble being aware of what your style says of you, or what you wanna look like, or even how you can achieve that, don’t hesitate to ask, the saleswoman where you usually go shopping, a friend, a blogger, a professional stylist… And once again, better to make a fashion faux pas than to be a completely boring person!
4-Time to go shopping! Take 5minutes to try on the things you wanna buy, sometimes it looks good on the hanger but it doesn’t look good on you, and sometimes, dare to try something you would never wear, cause the contrary is also true.
If there is just one inconvenient, don’t buy it, you’ll regret it. If you’re not sure, give you the time to think about it. Put it back and come back later, see if it’s stuck in your mind or if you forget it right away. We all have that one friend who bought shoes “absolutely gorgeous” and just a bit too big, guess what, if you can’t walk with them, there is no way you are gonna look gorgeous with them.
So my last advice would be: in the end remind that it is just material things we are talking about. Yes it can be beautiful, yes it can make you feel better for a while, give you your confidence back, but it won’t fill up your soul. When you feel like you start losing your mind about whatever it is you think you desperately need to buy, take a deep breath and relax all the tension, take a minute. It might not save your soul but it probably will save your finance :p.
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